Well I Guess This Is Growing Up

Long lived the days when I could go out drinking like Tara Reid and wake up the next morning with enough energy to run a 5K and go about my day just as functionally as if I had not consumed any alcohol the night before. Nowadays the day after a wild night is spent permanently attached to my bed and/or couch ordering $55 worth of Chinese delivery and watching a Love it or List it marathon on HGTV. I have to face it; I just can’t party like I used to. Sometimes it takes up to a few days to fully recover from a hangover while I remind myself “I am never drinking again.” I can only imagine how much worse these hangovers will be years from now if they are this bad now. I know they are increasing with age and I’m not looking forward to it.

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I’m not in college anymore so I’m no longer aloud to go out and be “that girl.” I have sort of entered the real world, so what I do in public could make or break me. I can’t go out and make a fool of myself with the likelihood of me running into a coworker. I can no longer post pictures of myself and my friends taking shots, dancing on bars and looking a hot mess all over the internet.

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Is it wrong that I would prefer sitting at home drinking wine and watching movies rather than go out to a bar, take shots and dance like a ratchet white girl? Does this mean I’m getting old? When I go out drinking, I have to set aside at least an entire day dedicated to being hungover and I just don’t have time for that anymore.

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Maybe my perceptions are skewed right now since I am battling a hangover as I type, but maybe I’m just growing up.

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Life Before Technology

What did people do? How did they get by?

I don’t mean back in the stone ages when people didn’t have cars or home phones or electricity. I’m talking within the time that I’ve been alive; I’m 24 years old, but over the past couple decades technology has advanced so much… and we have become so reliant on it; I cannot imagine a life without it. Do you remember dial-up internet? You couldn’t use your phone at the same time you’re on the internet. How ridiculous does that sound today? The time it took you to navigate from one page to the felt like an eternity; nowadays we start beating our computer if it takes more than 10 seconds for a page to load.

Do you remember life before Google? Anything you ever wanted to know, you had to look up in a book. Numerous questions a day would remain unanswered. Even all of the Encyclopedias, World Books, Dictionaries, Journals, Periodicals, Magazines, and Libraries in the world combined wouldn’t be able to answer some of the questions that Google can answer for us within seconds. Imagine how difficult writing research papers would be just 20 years ago. I probably would have dropped out of college. Facts that can be researched within seconds today took forever to find answers to. Am I supposed to read every book in the library on that subject to get answers? I give up!

…Or life without iPhones or smartphones? How crazy do we become when are phones are dying? What will do without them? What happens if we are driving in the middle of a night and get a flat tire and don’t have a spare? You can’t call AAA or a friend to pick you up; you can’t google the closest gas station or rest stop. You can’t even google what you should do when you are stuck in that situation. Do you expect me to stand on the side of the highway holding me arm out, fist clenched and thumb up? These days, that will probably get you killed. Was hitch-hiking more acceptable before smartphones existed? I guess over time, the more crazy people have gotten; the serial killers and psychopaths we hear about on the news have made us scared of our own shadow nowadays. Are we supposed to be scared of the person picking up the hitcher or the hitchhiker himself? We’ve seen too many scary movies to feel comfortable picking up a random stranger in the middle of the night that uses the old, “my car broke down” excuse. Looking at the picture below, she looks like she could be a harmless person, right? How do we know she doesn’t have a gun in that briefcase? And from the hitcher’s point of view, getting in the car with strangers has always been a no-no. So do we result to walking to the closest open establishment to get help? What if you’re in the middle of nowhere? The closest exit is several miles away and you could get raped and killed walking over there. You don’t have a phone, so you can’t call 9-1-1 if someone attacks you or kidnaps you. So back to my original question; “What happens if you are driving in the middle of the night and get a flat tire and don’t have a spare? I guess you’re just S.O.L. And that’s just one example!

Do you remember life before we had GPS? “Oh no, I’m lost! Let me just pull out this enormous map of the state while I’m driving to help me find my way.” Looking at your phone for directions is dangerous enough; you can even get a citation for it if a police officer wants to be an asshole. Imagine trying to drive with a giant piece of paper in front of your face while you’re lost; now THAT is dangerous! I don’t even think I could navigate myself anywhere just using a map. I need Siri to tell me where to go, or if I take a wrong turn she can recalculate the route to help me find my way. W.W.S.D: What would Siri do?

I can only imagine some spoiled 20-something girl 20 years from now writing on the same topic, only with more advancements, making people today sound like dinosaurs.

I can’t help but wonder (okay am I turning into Carrie Bradshaw?) what other technologies will come out in the future that we will feel like we cannot get by without. Technology has simplified life so much more and I am very thankful for it. Although it is sad how reliant we have become on our technology, I don’t really care. I am just grateful to being alive in this generation and not have to deal with any of the situations that I just mentioned. 

You Belong to the City

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I imagine walking aimlessly around the city, exploring local bakeries, coffee shops and boutiques.

I see myself lying in the grass, shaded under a giant Weeping Willow tree in the Public Garden, reading the latest New York Times best seller while baby ducklings swim by.

I dream of running for miles along the Charles River; clearing my mind and breathing in the fresh air.

Aspiring to check the Boston Marathon off of my bucket list someday.

I envision doing yoga in the park among hundreds of fellow yogis, freeing my mind and spirit.

Investing in a high-quality DSLR camera and taking pictures of the beautiful city’s historical landmarks and natural being.

I long to experience all four seasons of the year for the first time since childhood; to soak up the sun in the summertime, observe the leaves changing colors in the fall, the snowflakes falling on my winter wonderland then the beautiful flowers blooming in the springtime. Over and over again.

I envision someday raising a family in the city that my heart belongs to.

How to stay positive :)

Are you having an off-day? Some days we just don’t feel our normal selves; when it feels like everything is going wrong and you just can’t win no matter what you do. Sometimes you have to remind yourself of some things to give yourself a little pick-me-up. I have compiled a list of things to think about on days when you’re not feeling your best.

Fake it ‘til you make it. If you’re feeling unhappy, smile anyway. Sooner or later you’ll forget why you’re upset and have your mind on something else.

Don’t worry about the things that you don’t have and focus on what you do. If you have a job, a roof over your head, and people around you who you love and love you back, what more do you need? Tangibles don’t really matter. Take a look around you be thankful for what you have. There are many people worse off than you that would be thrilled to be in your shoes.

Don’t complain. Nobody wants to be around a Debby Downer and complaining gives off negative energy. They are probably all first world problems anyway. “If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we would grab ours back.” – Regina Brett

Don’t stress about things that don’t matter. Who really cares if someone likes you? Or how many social media followers you have? What does it matter how much money you make? Or what kind of car you drive? Think about what you’re actually worried about and try to focus on the positive things.

Try something new. Are you bored with your life? Doing the same things every day for an extended period of time can become draining. Picking up a new hobby and mixing things up a bit might be just what you need in order to turn your mood around.

Compliment others. Think about how good it feels to get a compliment from a total stranger. People will appreciate it and in return, it might bring you joy to know you’re making others happy.

Don’t compare yourself to others. You can’t always be the best at everything that you do, and there’s no shame in that. Remind yourself of the strengths that you possess and think about how to better yourself in those areas that you lack, rather than dwelling on them.

Last, but not least, don’t think, don’t stress, just do it! If you’re upset that you gained weight, put down the ice cream tub and get your butt to the gym! If you don’t like something, then change it. Problems aren’t going to mend themselves, so do something about it!

Recap of the 71’st Annual Golden Globe Awards

FASHION POLICE!!!

Emma Watson rocking a pair of slacks under her gown

I wonder if Drew Barrymore and Kim Kardashian had the same maternity designer?

 I thought so too!

Matt Damon looked old

Michael Douglas looked really old

Of course Jennifer Lawrence had to one-up herself falling on her face at The Oscar’s last year

By creeping up on Taylor Swfit…?

Oh no she didn’t

I knew that dress looked familiar

Emma Thompson kept it classy with her Louboutins  in one hand and martini glass in the other

What in the world was going on with Jacqueline Bisset? First of all, she looked like a hot mess. It took her a good minute and a half just to get up on stage, and her acceptance speech was award winning in itself. If you missed it, check it out below.

Jessica Lange was not thrilled about losing Best Actress in a Mini-Series to Jacqueline

Diane Keaton sings the Girl Scout song for Woody Allen

Emma Thompson sure enjoyed it

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I freaking love Julia Louis-Dreyfus

I was a little surprised to see they were serving hot dogs at the Golden Globes

     

And of course, #SEFIES !!!!

Ouch! Reese.. Shut down!

      

We’re all hoarders

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Today’s post is focused on reorganizing and downsizing. Throw away the clutter. Go through your house and get rid of anything that doesn’t have a purpose. If it can’t be reused, throw it away. If you think someone else could make use of it, donate it, or if you think you could get some money for it, try selling it on eBay or Craigslist. You will be surprised how many things are taking up space in your home that are not being used. You will feel so much better once this is done. It will be as if a huge weight has lifted off of your shoulders. You will be doing yourself a favor by making your home more organized, and possibly making a little money off of several items in your home that are only collecting dust.

You might have doubts about some of the things you come across, but the rule of thumb is when in doubt, throw it out! Even though The Hoarder Fairy in the back of your mind is telling you that although you haven’t used this item in years, as soon as you throw it away you will find a use for it and wish that you still had it. 9 times out of 10 this isn’t the case. Go through your garage, your attic, your basement, your closet; if you haven’t used it in over a year, you probably won’t be needing it any time soon. Freeing up this space will feel amazing and your house will look great! Nobody wants to be a hoarder.

As women, we have more than enough clothes in our closet, and we know that we don’t wear half of them, so why do we keep them? I’ll tell you why; it’s because deep down you think the second you get rid of it, you will find an occasion to wear it. When in reality, you probably have several items hanging in your closet that haven’t been worn in years, if even at all. Freeing up closet space will feel great once you do it, and trust me– you won’t be missing the stuff you get rid of. Either way, we’re women and we are still going to complain that we never have nothing to wear. Less is more.  It’s much better to have fewer solid outfits that you actually do wear and allow space for new items in your closet, than having a closet full of clothes that you never wear just hanging up collecting dust.

Here’s a tactic that I found on Pinterest that you could try; turn all of the hangers in your closet the opposite way. Every time you wear an item, turn the hanger around. After a few months, you can clearly see which clothing items you could live without.

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Common excuses of the Hoarder Fairy

“…but it was so expensive”

“It will fit again someday”

“As soon as I get rid of it, I will need it”

I know I’m not the only one who has purchased an article of clothing because you loved it when you tried it on in the store, but it has been hanging in your closet for over a year with the tags on it, never worn, but you continue to hold on to this item in hopes that you will find an occasion for it. This is the type of item you could sell on eBay; you would be making some of you money back for it and someone else might actually put it to use. The thought of  selling something on eBay might seem like more work than you would like to put into getting rid of something, but it’s really not. Especially if you find several items that you could sell together as a “lot” and you cold be getting rid of several things at once, rather than listing them individually.

The next type to get rid of are those items taking up space in your closet that you are not willing to accept will probably never fit you again. It happens to all of us, we have goals to become the size we were in high school, and more often than not, it doesn’t happen. Let’s face it, we’re older and our bodies are different now than they were then. Those size zero skinny jeans that looked so good on you then, now aren’t so flattering now. We are all victims of this; jumping up and down while pulling up on the belt loops while forcing those jeans past your butt, then lying on your bed, sucking in your stomach to button them up. I think it’s time for a bigger pair. Yup, I said it! Toss ’em!

This process is not going to be quick; it will take a while, but once you’re done, you will be SO HAPPY! You could even invite some friends over with cocktails, and make it fun. Going through your old things can actually be really entertaining, but careful not to get too distracted with the things that you find. Don’t sucked into the past. Going through old photo albums and embarrassing memories can be fun, but those are the things that will slow you down. The purpose is to find everything that doesn’t have a purpose and toss it! Once you are done, you can go back to looking at the sentimental things that you kept, but if you stop to play with everything that you find, you will never finish the job.

You can do it! And you’ll be so happy once you did!

Frenemies

It’s sad to say, but these days it’s easier to find a bad friend than it is to find a good one. We experience a point in our lives where we beginning to notice who our real friends are and those who are not. You have to take care of yourself and surround yourself with people who make you happy, people who bring out the best in you and those who inspire you. Friendships are not built around jealousy, back-talking and getting ahead, but unfortunately sometimes they are. Take a look at the people who surround you and recognize who the frenemies are; we all have them & I have compiled a list of the different types that you might have and who to look out for.

 

The user – This is the friend who only comes around when they need something from you. You don’t hear from them for months at a time and then when it’s convenient for them, they will come back into your life. It takes them days to get back to you when you need something and can rarely help you out with whatever you need.

 

The Social Networker – This is really just an acquaintance of yours whom you haven’t seen in several years or only met a handful of times. However, you are friends with them on Facebook and you are following them on Instagram and Twitter. You judge most of their pictures and think this person is pathetic based on their posts. However it all changes when he or she posts something that actually interests you. In which case, you like their post and possibly even leave a positive comment.

 

The old #1 – This is the friend who you’ve known half of your life, and although you two may have been thick as thieves back then, you two have now grown apart. Nowadays you rarely ever see each other, and when you do, you are thinking about other things you could be doing with this time and you often feel like you need a cocktail. A friendship isn’t a marriage, and you shouldn’t have to work at keeping it together.
 

 

The Negative Nancy – This is the friend who is always complaining about something. Every time you hang out, nothing is ever good enough and everything that comes out of his or her mouth is negative. He or she could even be a hypochondriac. This person always finds a way to ruin the night with their negative energy and brings you down with them. He or she treats you like you’re their shrink and you have run out of advice for this person.

I’m going to need another sweater

 

The drinking buddy – This is the friend whom you partied with all through your college years; they go out drinking several nights out of the week, they don’t really have their life together, and they party like they are still 21. There’s nothing wrong with going out every now and then, and I’m not telling you to be a boring old shrew that can’t have a good time anymore either. But let’s face it, we just can’t party like we used to. One night of hard drinking requires a full day of recovery and that’s a whole other topic in itself.

 

The Flake – This is the friend who is impossible to make plans with, and when it finally gets around to hanging out, he or she cancels at the last minute, coming up with some ridiculously overused excuse that you for some reason buy every time.

 

The competitor – You don’t know why you’re friends with this person, but this person thrives on finding ways to one up you in everything that you do, and for some reason or another, you feel necessary to compete back. This friend is constantly comparing their life to yours and strives to be better than you and making you jealous of their life.

 

The self-absorbed – When you are with this person, all they do is talk about what is going on in their life and never lets you get a word in. This person will talk for hours, bragging about every little detail of her life and every chance you get to chime in and change the subject, he or she somehow manages to bring the conversation back to how it relates to them.

 

The Gossiper – This is the friend that shit-talks everyone you know. Every time you meet up, this person has all the latest gossip on everyone and cannot keep her mouth shut. She doesn’t understand the concept of a secret and you can only imagine what she is saying about you when you aren’t around.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, then it’s time to trim the fat! You don’t need all this negative energy in your life and you need to surround yourself with people who make you a better you! Not the ones who are bringing you down. Cheers to the new year, and new friends.