Month: January 2014

How to stay positive :)

Are you having an off-day? Some days we just don’t feel our normal selves; when it feels like everything is going wrong and you just can’t win no matter what you do. Sometimes you have to remind yourself of some things to give yourself a little pick-me-up. I have compiled a list of things to think about on days when you’re not feeling your best.

Fake it ‘til you make it. If you’re feeling unhappy, smile anyway. Sooner or later you’ll forget why you’re upset and have your mind on something else.

Don’t worry about the things that you don’t have and focus on what you do. If you have a job, a roof over your head, and people around you who you love and love you back, what more do you need? Tangibles don’t really matter. Take a look around you be thankful for what you have. There are many people worse off than you that would be thrilled to be in your shoes.

Don’t complain. Nobody wants to be around a Debby Downer and complaining gives off negative energy. They are probably all first world problems anyway. “If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we would grab ours back.” – Regina Brett

Don’t stress about things that don’t matter. Who really cares if someone likes you? Or how many social media followers you have? What does it matter how much money you make? Or what kind of car you drive? Think about what you’re actually worried about and try to focus on the positive things.

Try something new. Are you bored with your life? Doing the same things every day for an extended period of time can become draining. Picking up a new hobby and mixing things up a bit might be just what you need in order to turn your mood around.

Compliment others. Think about how good it feels to get a compliment from a total stranger. People will appreciate it and in return, it might bring you joy to know you’re making others happy.

Don’t compare yourself to others. You can’t always be the best at everything that you do, and there’s no shame in that. Remind yourself of the strengths that you possess and think about how to better yourself in those areas that you lack, rather than dwelling on them.

Last, but not least, don’t think, don’t stress, just do it! If you’re upset that you gained weight, put down the ice cream tub and get your butt to the gym! If you don’t like something, then change it. Problems aren’t going to mend themselves, so do something about it!

Recap of the 71’st Annual Golden Globe Awards

FASHION POLICE!!!

Emma Watson rocking a pair of slacks under her gown

I wonder if Drew Barrymore and Kim Kardashian had the same maternity designer?

 I thought so too!

Matt Damon looked old

Michael Douglas looked really old

Of course Jennifer Lawrence had to one-up herself falling on her face at The Oscar’s last year

By creeping up on Taylor Swfit…?

Oh no she didn’t

I knew that dress looked familiar

Emma Thompson kept it classy with her Louboutins  in one hand and martini glass in the other

What in the world was going on with Jacqueline Bisset? First of all, she looked like a hot mess. It took her a good minute and a half just to get up on stage, and her acceptance speech was award winning in itself. If you missed it, check it out below.

Jessica Lange was not thrilled about losing Best Actress in a Mini-Series to Jacqueline

Diane Keaton sings the Girl Scout song for Woody Allen

Emma Thompson sure enjoyed it

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I freaking love Julia Louis-Dreyfus

I was a little surprised to see they were serving hot dogs at the Golden Globes

     

And of course, #SEFIES !!!!

Ouch! Reese.. Shut down!

      

We’re all hoarders

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Today’s post is focused on reorganizing and downsizing. Throw away the clutter. Go through your house and get rid of anything that doesn’t have a purpose. If it can’t be reused, throw it away. If you think someone else could make use of it, donate it, or if you think you could get some money for it, try selling it on eBay or Craigslist. You will be surprised how many things are taking up space in your home that are not being used. You will feel so much better once this is done. It will be as if a huge weight has lifted off of your shoulders. You will be doing yourself a favor by making your home more organized, and possibly making a little money off of several items in your home that are only collecting dust.

You might have doubts about some of the things you come across, but the rule of thumb is when in doubt, throw it out! Even though The Hoarder Fairy in the back of your mind is telling you that although you haven’t used this item in years, as soon as you throw it away you will find a use for it and wish that you still had it. 9 times out of 10 this isn’t the case. Go through your garage, your attic, your basement, your closet; if you haven’t used it in over a year, you probably won’t be needing it any time soon. Freeing up this space will feel amazing and your house will look great! Nobody wants to be a hoarder.

As women, we have more than enough clothes in our closet, and we know that we don’t wear half of them, so why do we keep them? I’ll tell you why; it’s because deep down you think the second you get rid of it, you will find an occasion to wear it. When in reality, you probably have several items hanging in your closet that haven’t been worn in years, if even at all. Freeing up closet space will feel great once you do it, and trust me– you won’t be missing the stuff you get rid of. Either way, we’re women and we are still going to complain that we never have nothing to wear. Less is more.  It’s much better to have fewer solid outfits that you actually do wear and allow space for new items in your closet, than having a closet full of clothes that you never wear just hanging up collecting dust.

Here’s a tactic that I found on Pinterest that you could try; turn all of the hangers in your closet the opposite way. Every time you wear an item, turn the hanger around. After a few months, you can clearly see which clothing items you could live without.

Stolen Moments: My Organization Obsession  Turn hangers around when you wear clothes. This will help you keep track of what you've worn!

 

Common excuses of the Hoarder Fairy

“…but it was so expensive”

“It will fit again someday”

“As soon as I get rid of it, I will need it”

I know I’m not the only one who has purchased an article of clothing because you loved it when you tried it on in the store, but it has been hanging in your closet for over a year with the tags on it, never worn, but you continue to hold on to this item in hopes that you will find an occasion for it. This is the type of item you could sell on eBay; you would be making some of you money back for it and someone else might actually put it to use. The thought of  selling something on eBay might seem like more work than you would like to put into getting rid of something, but it’s really not. Especially if you find several items that you could sell together as a “lot” and you cold be getting rid of several things at once, rather than listing them individually.

The next type to get rid of are those items taking up space in your closet that you are not willing to accept will probably never fit you again. It happens to all of us, we have goals to become the size we were in high school, and more often than not, it doesn’t happen. Let’s face it, we’re older and our bodies are different now than they were then. Those size zero skinny jeans that looked so good on you then, now aren’t so flattering now. We are all victims of this; jumping up and down while pulling up on the belt loops while forcing those jeans past your butt, then lying on your bed, sucking in your stomach to button them up. I think it’s time for a bigger pair. Yup, I said it! Toss ’em!

This process is not going to be quick; it will take a while, but once you’re done, you will be SO HAPPY! You could even invite some friends over with cocktails, and make it fun. Going through your old things can actually be really entertaining, but careful not to get too distracted with the things that you find. Don’t sucked into the past. Going through old photo albums and embarrassing memories can be fun, but those are the things that will slow you down. The purpose is to find everything that doesn’t have a purpose and toss it! Once you are done, you can go back to looking at the sentimental things that you kept, but if you stop to play with everything that you find, you will never finish the job.

You can do it! And you’ll be so happy once you did!

Frenemies

It’s sad to say, but these days it’s easier to find a bad friend than it is to find a good one. We experience a point in our lives where we beginning to notice who our real friends are and those who are not. You have to take care of yourself and surround yourself with people who make you happy, people who bring out the best in you and those who inspire you. Friendships are not built around jealousy, back-talking and getting ahead, but unfortunately sometimes they are. Take a look at the people who surround you and recognize who the frenemies are; we all have them & I have compiled a list of the different types that you might have and who to look out for.

 

The user – This is the friend who only comes around when they need something from you. You don’t hear from them for months at a time and then when it’s convenient for them, they will come back into your life. It takes them days to get back to you when you need something and can rarely help you out with whatever you need.

 

The Social Networker – This is really just an acquaintance of yours whom you haven’t seen in several years or only met a handful of times. However, you are friends with them on Facebook and you are following them on Instagram and Twitter. You judge most of their pictures and think this person is pathetic based on their posts. However it all changes when he or she posts something that actually interests you. In which case, you like their post and possibly even leave a positive comment.

 

The old #1 – This is the friend who you’ve known half of your life, and although you two may have been thick as thieves back then, you two have now grown apart. Nowadays you rarely ever see each other, and when you do, you are thinking about other things you could be doing with this time and you often feel like you need a cocktail. A friendship isn’t a marriage, and you shouldn’t have to work at keeping it together.
 

 

The Negative Nancy – This is the friend who is always complaining about something. Every time you hang out, nothing is ever good enough and everything that comes out of his or her mouth is negative. He or she could even be a hypochondriac. This person always finds a way to ruin the night with their negative energy and brings you down with them. He or she treats you like you’re their shrink and you have run out of advice for this person.

I’m going to need another sweater

 

The drinking buddy – This is the friend whom you partied with all through your college years; they go out drinking several nights out of the week, they don’t really have their life together, and they party like they are still 21. There’s nothing wrong with going out every now and then, and I’m not telling you to be a boring old shrew that can’t have a good time anymore either. But let’s face it, we just can’t party like we used to. One night of hard drinking requires a full day of recovery and that’s a whole other topic in itself.

 

The Flake – This is the friend who is impossible to make plans with, and when it finally gets around to hanging out, he or she cancels at the last minute, coming up with some ridiculously overused excuse that you for some reason buy every time.

 

The competitor – You don’t know why you’re friends with this person, but this person thrives on finding ways to one up you in everything that you do, and for some reason or another, you feel necessary to compete back. This friend is constantly comparing their life to yours and strives to be better than you and making you jealous of their life.

 

The self-absorbed – When you are with this person, all they do is talk about what is going on in their life and never lets you get a word in. This person will talk for hours, bragging about every little detail of her life and every chance you get to chime in and change the subject, he or she somehow manages to bring the conversation back to how it relates to them.

 

The Gossiper – This is the friend that shit-talks everyone you know. Every time you meet up, this person has all the latest gossip on everyone and cannot keep her mouth shut. She doesn’t understand the concept of a secret and you can only imagine what she is saying about you when you aren’t around.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, then it’s time to trim the fat! You don’t need all this negative energy in your life and you need to surround yourself with people who make you a better you! Not the ones who are bringing you down. Cheers to the new year, and new friends.

Post Grad/New Year Motivation

HAPPY 2014! It’s been about a month since my last blog entry, which touched on how I was less interested in finding a “big girl job” and more interested in sleeping ‘til noon and spending the remainder of the day watching movies and being lazy. I suppose that I got my wish, because since I graduated, I haven’t gotten much accomplished at all. I am paying for a gym membership that I don’t think I’ve stepped foot into in about two months, today was the first day I have gone for a run in over a month, and my eating habits are not exactly on the healthy side. Let’s face it; I’ve gained weight and I’m not happy about it. Who do I have to blame but myself though? Now that I’ve graduated, I have so much free time and I still make excuses why I don’t go to the gym or go for a run. It’s not like I’m completely useless though. I do still have two jobs, I work seven nights a week, but unless I am working a double, I don’t have to be anywhere until 6:00 PM. So what do I do with my free time? I sleep until noon and watch movies until I have to get ready for work. A few days after my graduation day, I went on an eight-day vacation to Mont Tremblant in Canada with my boyfriend and his family. The ski resort that we stayed in was like being in a fairy tale. We pretty much spent our days, sleeping in as late as we wanted, skiing in the day time, going out for dinner, and then going out for drinks. I had such an amazing time, and since I’ve been back it’s been hard to get myself out of vacation mode.

However, it is now a new year and I need to get my butt back in gear. Enough is enough. So here are my New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Run at least three days a week. (While I have no day-time obligations, try running every day) I was in the best shape of my life back when I was running every day.
  2. Goal: Run at least one half marathon this year. In November 2012, I went for a run on bayshore one day, and ended up running 13.13 miles in 2 hours and 14 minutes; a 10 min/mile pace. I have never registered for a half marathon before and I really would love to do the Disney Wine and Dine race this year.
  3. Find a “real” job. As much as I love it, I didn’t spend 6 years in college and thousands of dollars in student loans to be a bartender.
  4. Move. This is tough; I’ve lived in Tampa for most of my life and I’m comfortable here. I like both of my jobs, I love my condo and I absolutely LOVE my boyfriend. But those things aside, there is nothing here for me anymore. I know I don’t want to raise a family in Florida, but I don’t think I’m ready to move out of the state yet. My sister lives in Orlando, so I am pretty sure I would like to move over there to be closer to her and my niece.
  5. Buy myself a nice camera, take a photography class and pick up photography as a hobby. I have always loved taking pictures, and I don’t think Instagram is cutting it for me.